Leading sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman talks shocking new study which shows many women are left unfulfilled after intimacy.
Many couples are leaving the bedroom with markedly different results. A new study has found that nearly half of all men are not making their wives happy in the bedroom — in fact, while nine in ten men experience regular orgasms, less than half that of women can say the thing.
“And, here is the most eyebrow-raising part — men are often very wrong about how often their partners are reaching fulfilment. 43 percent of husbands incorrectly guess about their partner’s sexual pleasure and if they are reaching fulfillment,” says Dr. Laura Berman, leading sex therapist, New York Times bestselling author, radio host, and regular television guest.
“In other words, not only are women leaving intimacy without reaching orgasm on a regular basis, but their partner has no idea. In my work with my clients, I have seen firsthand how this can lead to resentment on both sides — she feels angry and hurt that he is enjoying himself while she is not, and he feels hurt and disconnected by her seeming lack of interest in the act,” says Dr. Berman, who has helped countless couples build stronger relationships through her TV and radio shows, books, columns, and website, along with her private practice based in Los Angeles.
Dr. Berman also points out that this study was performed on newlyweds who had been married less than a year. “So, it’s not just that the passion died or that the couples lost connection over many years together. This is a sexual crisis happening almost from the very beginning of a couple’s relationship, and sadly, much of it can be attributed to lack of sexual education, confusion about female anatomy and female pleasure, and lastly just a fear of talking openly and honestly about women’s needs in the bedroom. Women don’t want to seem demanding or to ask for too much in the bedroom, so they hide their needs and lack of pleasure deep inside. Ironically, this very selfless act ends up harming their marriage, not to mention themselves personally.”
What does Dr. Berman recommend? “Couples need to learn how the female anatomy works and how female orgasm most often happens. We need open and honest communication in the bedroom. And we can also consider sex aids which can help to encourage the natural process and enhance female arousal.”
Dr. Berman points to products like Forta for Men which helps to strengthen a man’s performance and ‘even the playing field’ between men and women in the bedroom to ensure that she has time to reach pleasure. “I often say that men are like a microwave and women are like a slow-cooker, so any product which can help to increase a man’s performance and staying power is going to help both partners walk away satisfied.”